Episode: 19
The Compassion Method in the Context of Marriage & Relationships Plus Some Thoughts on Being Single
In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss:
- Laura’s approach to working with couples and how it differs from traditional marriage counseling.
- Guidance for couples to see the heart or root issues.
- Why do activities that encourage or sometimes force couples to connect sometimes miss the mark?
- Laura breaks down her quote: “You can be the best person at learning how to communicate, but if you don’t know what to communicate, you will get nowhere.”
- What roles do shame and blame have in our intimate relationships?
- How do we recognize codependency and how is it affecting us?
- A fresh perspective and encouragement for those who are single.
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If you have never had anyone be with you in the problem, you will medicate with the solution.
In this episode we will expand your concept of “medication” and the importance of feeling our pain in the healing process. At the end we give a powerful example of how sexual addiction is a form of medication for the...
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Addressing TCM misconceptions
In this episode we address some common misconceptions: What am I a doormat? Doesn't what they did matter? I am not triggered i'm just passionate! All of this focus on me seems selfish and more......
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The Keys
In this episode we discuss the "keys" to living your life to its fullest. Life is a precious gift and who you are is the extraordinary. These "keys" can help you be the person you were created to be and...
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Learning To Feel Your Emotions
In this episode, we dive into the crucial skill of learning to feel our emotions and understand what they are trying to tell us. The Compassion Method™ process stalls without learning this crucial skill. Brian and Laura share from their...
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Understanding the Connection Between Shame and Blame
Have you ever felt misunderstood? How about disrespected? Please join us as Laura connects these common human feelings to shame and blame and highlights a pathway to empowerment and healing....
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Connecting the Compassion Method™ to Your Faith (Part 3)
This is the third installment of Laura and Brian continuing the discussion of how the Compassion Method™ can help you live your faith more authentically and shame-free. This episode focuses on learning to be still and learning to live loved....
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Connecting the Compassion Method™ to Your Faith (Part 2)
In this episode, Laura and Brian continue the discussion of how the Compassion Method™ can help you live your faith more authentically and shame-free....
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Connecting the Compassion Method™ to your Faith
In this episode, Laura and Brian discuss how the Compassion Method™ can help you live your faith more authentically and shame-free. They also discuss the strong impact Laura’s personal faith had on the development of The Compassion Method™ process....
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How you can go deeper with the Compassion Method™ today
In this special episode, Laura and Brian talk about the resources Laura has created for you to go deeper with the Compassion Method™ beyond the podcast!...
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What relationships look like on the other side of The Compassion Method
In today’s episode, Laura and Brian discuss how the principles of The Compassion Method impact relationships with the people that are closest to you in your life. Also, they will share a different perspective on “toxic” relationships....
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Guiding Adult Children Using The Compassion Method Process
In this episode, Laura and Brian discuss what a parent's role is in their adult child's life and how the Compassion Method is a key part of the process....
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Discovering Your TRUE SELF
In this episode, Laura and Brian discuss discovering your TRUE SELF. Your True Self is who you were created to be. It is and has always been with you…..it has simply been covered up by pain and unmet need. In...
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What You do is NOT who you ARE.
Join us in this episode as Laura and Brian share stories and truths about how the things you’ve done are not you’re identity; they are not who you ARE....
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The Powerful Relationship between Joy and Pain
In this episode, Laura and Brian discuss a topic that is often difficult to confront - the relationship between joy and pain. It's easy to assume that we can only experience happiness if we avoid pain at all costs, but...
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Who’s the Victim, and who’s the villain?
"In this episode, Laura and Brian explore the idea that there are no victims or villains in our lives. This may sound harsh and even hard to believe at first, but this truth has the power to set you free...
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Discover These 4 Ways to Love and Care for Yourself Using the Compassion Method
Laura’s teaching on the four ways we love ourselves is groundbreaking. As she examines each one, you will learn how to be a caretaker of your soul, and you will also see where you have hidden pockets of pain that...
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Applying The Compassion Method (TCM) to children and parenting
A listener asks a question about how to engage her triggered child using the TCM approach. As usual, Laura’s response challenges us to think unconventionally and even go against what is our natural inclination. As a parent, or really anyone...
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What happens when the pain is simply too BIG?!?
Have you ever attempted The Compassion Method Process and felt “stuck” because your pain is just so overwhelming that you can’t move forward? Have you ever experienced emotional pain so intense that you felt like you were drowning? Is there...
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Learning to Comfort Grief and Identify its Hidden Forms
When grief is not properly comforted, it can rob us of life. When properly comforted we can experience hope, peace, and joy. In this episode, Laura and Brian walk through navigating grief, identifying its hidden forms, and learning how to...
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Emotions Are Not Your Enemy
Many people believe and have been taught that feeling their emotions is wrong… That doing so can be harmful or is a sign of weakness. That they can’t be trusted and should simply be avoided and suppressed. In this episode,...
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Answering Your Frequently Asked Questions
It has been quite a bit since Brian and Laura answered our listeners questions on the show! This episode is all about you and your questions, throughout the episode we answer Laura's most frequently asked questions starting with, "How do...
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The Psychology of Money
Brian is a huge fan of the bestselling book by Morgan Housel, The Psychology of Money. However, he feels that chapter 3 of the book needs an addendum that discusses the connection between money and emotional health. In this episode,...
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CM in the Marketplace – Do Our Protectors Increase Our Performance?
“Your true self is a powerful force. Your true self can accomplish more in a minute than your triggered self can in a lifetime, but that is not the real reason to connect with your true self. The real reason...
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Navigating Manipulation, Narcissism, and Gaslighting
Help, I’m being manipulated! During this episode, Brian and Laura discuss manipulation and our tendency to manipulate others, often subconsciously. Throughout this episode, we will learn how to use The Compassion Method as an offensive weapon against manipulation, narcissism, and...
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Divorce and the Compassion Method Process
Listen in to Laura and Brian's insightful discussion about compassion and divorce. They explore how compassion serves to hold back divorce's rising tide of regret and shame, allowing us to truly grieve and find life-long healing....
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Revisiting Child Self
Despite our pain, there is a glimmer of hope. This hope for comfort can be discovered by connecting with your child self, free from agendas. Based on a listener question, Brian & Laura explore our child self and how it...
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With Special Guest Anthony Bulau
During this interview-style episode, Anthony Bulau shares his experience with The Compassion Method as well as interviews Laura and Brian about a variety of topics, including: How can you use The Compassion Method principles to handle frustration with your children?...
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The 10 Gifts (Part 2)
We all have needs that need to be met in our lives. In this episode Brian shares, “The solution is not to fix, but to fill. Be filled with the gifts and the pain is comforted and eliminated.” These needs...
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Codependency
Today's episode is framed, in part, by a listener's question regarding codependency. As a result of this discussion, you will gain a true understanding of codependency. Laura discusses the freedom she has found from codependency as well as a single...
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Forgiveness and the Compassion Method
In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura explore how The Compassion Method helps us navigate the wilderness of forgiveness. A litmus test is discussed to identify our present phase of forgiveness. Laura and Brian also guide us...
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True Self and Faith
In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss: An answer to listeners asking, “How does The Compassion Method connect to my faith?” What does Laura mean when she says, “The Compassion Method does not require an adherence...
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The Trigger of Faith and Religion
Religion is a major trigger for A LOT of people. It is a trigger in ways that you also might not expect. In this episode, we will discuss the triggering impact that religion has on both the religious and the...
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The Compassion Method in the Marketplace
In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss: A listener-question on the gift of enough and the role of protection in one’s journey In the face of the “results matter” mindset in the workplace, how do we...
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The Compassion Method in the Context of Marriage & Relationships Plus Some Thoughts on Being Single
In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss: Laura’s approach to working with couples and how it differs from traditional marriage counseling. Guidance for couples to see the heart or root issues. Why do activities that encourage...
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Brian’s Healing Journey
In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss: How Brian ended up in Laura’s office for the first time and how he found himself on the path towards his great awakening. Why do the words awareness, comfort,...
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Social Media & Emotional Health
In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss: The state of artificial intelligence as it affects our emotional health. The documentary The Social Dilemma and the unintended consequences that have come with the rise of social media....
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Answering Your Questions
In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura answer questions submitted by our listeners. Tune in to hear the discussion! Questions include: How does The Compassion Method work itself out in the context of my faith? How do...
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Deep Dive Into Famous Quotes from Laura Duncan (Part 2)
In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura take a deep dive into the following quotes from Laura: “Your adult self is like a website, and your child self is your coding: change your coding and you change...
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Deep Dive Into Famous Quotes From Laura Duncan (Part 1)
In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura take a deep dive into the following quotes from Laura: "What you do matters, but you matter more." “Self-compassion starts with you, but ends in a party.” "Feel your pain,...
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The Compassion Method™ for Students: An Interview With Students Laura Taught
In this special episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura interview a group of students that have journeyed through The Compassion Method™. The interview spotlights the power of The Compassion Method™ when the process is learned at a young...
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There’s more to your story: experience a new life today as you navigate your protectors.
In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss: The definition and examples of protectors Why doesn’t Laura encourage people to get rid of their protectors immediately? How do we discover our true protectors? Identifying our protectors: their...
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Our Privilege in Pain: What You Haven’t Heard About Our True Self
In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss: If not to heal our pain, then what’s the goal of The Compassion Method™? The link between true repentance and our true self How Brian and Laura respond to...
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3 Practical Ways to Experience Joy and Heal Pain
In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss: Practical ways to connect to our true self, which allows us to experience both: the fullness of joy and the healing of pain Brian and Laura share a preview...
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The Knowledge of Good and Evil: Why Managing Our Shame Isn’t the Solution
In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss: Which is more detrimental: the knowledge of good or the knowledge of evil? A real-life example of shame intervening in childhood development Warning signs that shame is becoming who...
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What’s Your Body Telling You with Courtney Lancaster & Krystal Freise
In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura are joined by Courtney Lancaster (Life Coach, Redding, California) and Krystal Freise (Yoga Teacher, Dixon, Illinois) as they discuss: An overview of trauma-sensitive yoga, and how Krystal uses it to...
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Laura’s Personal Journey Through Grief
In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss: Key takeaways from Laura’s journey navigating the loss of her husband How do you know when you’re ready to share your grief experience to encourage others? Can thankfulness be...
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The Remote Control Exercise
In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss: The Remote Control Exercise, a step by step process for bringing healing and comfort How do we experience the compassion method, versus simply using it as a process to...
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The 10 Gifts -Tangibly Meeting Unmet Needs
In this episode of Triggered and True Laura and Brian discuss: The difference between actually getting your needs met VS. just making your pain “go away.” The “10 gifts” -the tangible way of meeting unmet needs. Join the conversation here:...
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What Compassion Is And What It Is Not…
In this episode of Triggered and True, Laura and Brian discuss: What compassion is Common misconceptions about compassion How to access compassion for yourself What blocks our ability to have self compassion Join the conversation here: https://www.triggeredandtrue.com/ask...
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What You Don’t Know About a “Trigger”?
In this episode of Triggered And True, Brian and Laura define what a "trigger" is, why we have triggers, and why triggers can actually be good as they are a spotlight on our pain, and show us where we need...
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Shame Vs. Identity
In this episode of Triggered And True, Brian and Laura discuss: Shame Where shame originated Shame Vs. identity Why "getting better" should not be the goal, and can actually keep you stuck living in shame... Join the conversation here: https://www.triggeredandtrue.com/ask...
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Triggered and True
This podcast is designed to help you discover your true self and bring healing to your inner world. Join the conversation here: https://www.triggeredandtrue.com/ask...
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